Hi, I'm Liz Clifton founder of take34u. Here creating calm confidence for you fast.

My own life has gifted me so many wonderful experiences. I am mum to 4 wonderful girls, currently guardian of 2 Romanian rescue dogs a Doberman and wife of a fantastically supportive husband.

However life has not been smooth and I have personally navigated divorce from a very difficult and unhappy marriage, family court, depression, stress, miscarriage, eating disorders, house loss, over 6 months of immobility and supported my partner through addiction. I am extremely resilient.

In fact that reminds me of an occasion some 10 years ago when I was still working at the Council. It was an absolutely freezing day and the sun was glistening harsh white off the thick foot of snow on the ground. I was driving my car to get it's annual service and mot when I hit a patch of extremely slippery snow.

Remembering that you have to steer into the skid I successfully skidded along the road for about half a mile. Very carefully steering into each slide.

What I forgot to remember was to take my foot off the accelerator!

That story is a great metaphor for my life as I continually turned into each difficulty and just carried on...

My main focus was on looking after my young girls and I ignored my own feelings, hopes and dreams daily.

I got lost in the drift of survival.

Simply pushing through each day and sorting out each new drama as it arose.

There was fleeting joy when I was dancing with my girls, cooking with or for them and participating in anything creative at work or home.

Seeing myself as a supportive and empathic person I constantly sacrificed my own needs until I was starting to feel very resentful.

It wasn't until a moment around 10pm on the shop floor whilst working my third job of the week one Tuesday that things began to change.

I was discussing feeding babies with my colleagues and one of them asked when I finished breastfeeding my youngest at that time.

Explaining that I was still feeding her they were shocked and exclaimed "Isn't she nearly 2?"

"Yes" I said surprised at their shock.

And then one of the ladies asked me a question that completely changed my life. "Why?"

It was at this point that I realised I actually had a choice. I could choose not to breastfeed her when I got home...

So that night on getting home from my midnight shift I instead fed her water from a sippy cup. And she fell asleep just as easily!

From that point on I began to make more choices and change my life. Enjoying a freeing new perspective on how to support both myself and my girls to the very best of my ability.

Share a bit more of my story with me here: