Hi, I'm Liz Clifton founder of take34u. Here creating calm confidence for you fast.
My own life has gifted me so many wonderful experiences. I am mum to 4 wonderful girls, currently guardian of 2 Romanian rescue dogs a Doberman and wife of a fantastically supportive husband.
However life has not been smooth and I have personally navigated divorce from a very difficult and unhappy marriage, family court, depression, stress, miscarriage, eating disorders, house loss, over 6 months of immobility and supported my partner through addiction. I am extremely resilient.
In fact that reminds me of an occasion some 10 years ago when I was still working at the Council. It was an absolutely freezing day and the sun was glistening harsh white off the thick foot of snow on the ground. I was driving my car to get it's annual service and mot when I hit a patch of extremely slippery snow.
Remembering that you have to steer into the skid I successfully skidded along the road for about half a mile. Very carefully steering into each slide.
What I forgot to remember was to take my foot off the accelerator!
That story is a great metaphor for my life as I continually turned into each difficulty and just carried on...
My main focus was on looking after my young girls and I ignored my own feelings, hopes and dreams daily.
I got lost in the drift of survival.
Simply pushing through each day and sorting out each new drama as it arose.
There was fleeting joy when I was dancing with my girls, cooking with or for them and participating in anything creative at work or home.
Seeing myself as a supportive and empathic person I constantly sacrificed my own needs until I was starting to feel very resentful.
It wasn't until a moment around 10pm on the shop floor whilst working my third job of the week one Tuesday that things began to change.
I was discussing feeding babies with my colleagues and one of them asked when I finished breastfeeding my youngest at that time.
Explaining that I was still feeding her they were shocked and exclaimed "Isn't she nearly 2?"
"Yes" I said surprised at their shock.
And then one of the ladies asked me a question that completely changed my life. "Why?"
It was at this point that I realised I actually had a choice. I could choose not to breastfeed her when I got home...
So that night on getting home from my midnight shift I instead fed her water from a sippy cup. And she fell asleep just as easily!
From that point on I began to make more choices and change my life. Enjoying a freeing new perspective on how to support both myself and my girls to the very best of my ability.
"Liz was an incredible coach. She helped me overcome my limiting beliefs and outgrow my old habits! Liz has a warm, positive energy that makes it easy for you to be comfortable in a coaching environment. I would highly recommend her services to anyone that’s looking for help with their personal development."
Stephie Guy Transformational Calmness Trainer for Sensitive Dogs
"From the moment I started working with Liz I have felt calmer and more in control of my life. In the very first session Liz helped me to understand my frustration and then gave me 2 strategies for changing how I felt. In our second session she helped me to structure my daily tasks, to celebrate my achievements, and showed me a way to protect myself from taking on everyone else’s emotions whilst still being able to feel and to give to others. I’m recommending Liz to everyone I know - she’s the best ❤️"
Sasha Louise Smith Business Coach
"Liz has an lovely ability to make people feel seen and heard. To help you to pause and take a breath in a busy day and have some time for you. No matter who you are you will be met with love, compassion and acceptance as you are guided to look at what it is you need in order to feel peaceful and in balance."